Honolulu, Oahu
Feb 2017 journal

This vacation was in conjunction with Kennyons and my birthday. It was very planned and thought out (the price makes you put thought into it).

Traveling to Honolulu with my family was a dream come true for me.  I was in the Navy for 8 years, Kennyon 20 years, and we got to travel frequently, but alone and apart leaving our families behind.  Joining the Navy I found my love for new culture, new ideas, and new memories that last a lifetime and humbled me as well.  Taking pictures is my way of ensuring these memories do not get lost in my everyday lifestyle.

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Air b-n-b will give you the opportunity to live life a native of that city by renting a place that is in an apartment building, condo, or even someones house!  You have to grocery shop which enables you to meet locals and forces you to find stores and your way around!  It is also intimate since no one is there to clean and you get to enjoy your own mess!  The owners always leave a to-do list of things/experiences in the area along with restaurants and known nuances of the neighborhood.  Then theres the hotel experience which is always a delight while vacationing, its just that sometimes hotels can become somewhat of a tourist trap….a twilight zone experience is what I call it.  Touristy drinks, the hotels idea of what native food is, live bands (while you are relaxing) and maids knocking on your door at 7am!  There is obviously good and bad about both of them which is why I like to enjoy them both while on a long vacation.

We drank mai-tai’s and honestly I have had enough pineapple for the rest of my life!  We learned that it takes 5 years to grow a pineapple at the Dole Plantation which was not a fun tour lol but we did it.  We took a boat ride and watched for whales and snorkeled then sailed away into the sunset.  We learned some new vocabulary like Mahalo (Thank you) and Aloha (Hello, Goodbye).  We toured native parts and learned more about Hawaii’s foundation and toured Pearl Harbor.

Initially we lodged in an air b-n-b and it was amazing!  Picking an air b-n-b blog coming soon!  Then we lodged at the Hilton Waikiki and it was pretty touristy.  We got away from the tourist traps by hanging out with some military friends that happen to live there.

Moment of reflection:  We work hard, not for the American Dream, but to enjoy life on OUR terms.  Traveling is mines and I own that opportunity as long as I work hard.  I vow to enjoy life as hard as I work.  I vow to enhance my cultural experiences and teach my son what hard work rewards you with along with a cultural enlightening.

Thank you and I hope you enjoyed the memories I shared.


P.S…..Some items that made my trip easier.

Dreadlock hair jewelry. Works well with braids as well as dreads and a lot cheaper here than purchasing at a hair store considering the amount you receive.
Sumind 100 Pieces Dreadlocks Metal Hair Cuffs Hair Braiding Beads Filigree Hair Accessory, Assorted Colors

My handy-dandy backpack!  Great for airport shenanigans and a tour bus guided day trip on your vacay!

Sunglasses and Cover-Ups!

SojoS Classic Aviator Mirrored Flat Lens Sunglasses Metal Frame with Spring Hinges SJ1030 With Gold Frame/Pink Mirrored Lens

SojoS Cat Eye Mirrored Flat Lenses Street Fashion Metal Frame Women Sunglasses SJ1001 With Gold Frame/Pink Mirrored Lens

I don’t know where to start!

Overthinking and debating with a hint of self doubt. Overthinking is NOT a bad thing; I actually think if everyone thought a little bit deeper into their situations then life would be a lot simpler. There would be less violence and theft; Just an all around good place to exist. Instead, a lot of decisions are made with no thought to them what-so-ever and mistakes are made. Maybe I overthink because I am afraid of making mistakes. I am very hard on myself after a mistake and I try to think of ways I could have prevented them, hence the overthinking. Then there’s the debating stage; Where’s my audience or what platform should I use? And lastly, there’s the self doubt. No one is gonna read it and no one is gonna care. So why not just get started anyway and put it out there! Courage.

I want to discuss my life. Not with anyone in particular, but with anyone who finds interest to keep reading. Anyone who may have experienced some of my fears and experiences. Anyone who wants to give suggestions or share their stories. Anyone who can learn from my mistakes and/or lessons. Anyone who can teach me new things.  My self-doubt is usually what prevents me from moving forward. I’ve actually started a blog before but stopped because I felt like no one was reading. I was investing so much time coming up with awesome concepts and typing through the night but once I published it live, no one read it! I was defeated and I quit. After a few months people started emailing me asking when was the next post and why they haven’t heard from me in a while! Not a lot of people but definitely more than the “no one” I thought was reading! Not having support definitely has defeated me in the past more than I can embarrassingly admit and I am here to say you absolutely have to work past that! Eventually your support will come from the people who were supposed to support you so just be patient.


To get started, with almost anything, get a pen and paper (literally or electronically) and write down your ideas. Then, organize them! Pick any organization method you desire such as by date, alphabetically, or by topic. You can even be an organized “mess” as long as you get organized. Once you start writing things down you will realize that your mind begins to clear up and may even get motivated to do more. Usually once you get your mind organized, you will see a starting point of where to begin.

Other things that help with organization are self helps books and YouTube tutorials. Let’s face it, theres a tutorial for everything on the internet. There are a lot of “started from the bottom” individuals that don’t mind making videos, helping us break through our plateau.

I won’t say stop overthinking because chances are the world and everyone is it is saying that. But I will say to scale down the overthinking and just write! That severely helps with overthinking.